After my last post Kelly left this comment:
…would love a happiness post on dealing with Christmas, I feel very mixed about the whole business, and the pressure of “presents’ and expectations, real or imagined.
Ah yes, Christmas! ‘Tis the season to be jolly. Jolly busy.
I sympathise with Kelly who lives in Canada because, it has to be said, many North Americans do go a bit bonkers with it all.
It can all get a bit frenzied. As Kelly says, expectations can be so high. So here’s my top tip for dealing with things at this time of year:
Do the festivities on your own terms
If you want to skip sending out Christmas cards this year – by all means!
If you want to go to the Bahamas and forget it all – spread your wings and fly.
If you want to visit family in the spring rather than dashing around like a mad thing now – that’s OK too.
It’s far better that you do what really appeals to you than to spend your time scowling over the fatted turkey. Your relatives will have a much better time without you, to be frank!
What I love about my family is that we all do our own thing with the present buying. Some go lavish, some buy in second hand shops, some buy online, some make things by hand, some don’t buy anything at all. (We’re a big family!) I remember one year we all received presents from the ancient contents of my brother-in-law’s mother’s attic. She’d recently had a clear out and saw an opportunity. Wonderful!
So what do you REALLY want to do this festive season? Claim it as your own. It’s much kinder to everyone involved to have a happy version of you participating (or not!) – than to expect them to deal with you feeling all bitter and twisted about it.
Choose your version of things and have a jolly good time doing it!