Happy Birthday, Happy New Year!

So the school holidays are over, we’re back from our wonderful holiday in Italy and I’m back in blogging-action. Horrah! I missed you all.

This blog is now officially 1 years old! Sing along now:

Happy birthday to you

Squashed tomatoes and stew

You look like a bunch-of-words

And you really are that too.

(You might have to be of Bristish descent to get that!)

I love this time of year because, for me, it’s my New Year – complete with resolutions and fresh new starts. Last year I created this blog out of a commitment to turning around my relationship with happiness and abundance. I feel I’ve come a long way on that journey and by way of completion with my year here’s a list of the top 5 things I’d say I’ve learnt:

1) Writing blogs is fun

2) There’s a whole world of wonderful bloggers out there.

3) Writing about happiness is a great way of staying alert for it

4) Lists in blogs are de-rigueur

5) Summarising a whole years-worth of posts is impossible!

I love to spice things up for myself at this time of year, so from today I’m going to change my tagline from “How happy do I dare to be?” to “How concious do I dare to be?” I’ll talk about this more in my next post – it deserves it’s own platform, megaphone and green room, I feel – but basically my commitment and challenge this year is to have my dream world and my “real” world meet. Being with reality has never been a strong point of mine – in fact I’ve deliberately shied away from it but as I get longer in the tooth I’m realising lasting change and transformation can only happen when I use my dreams to fuel a concious interaction with the “what’s so” of things.

Intrigued? I hope so! As I say, I’ll tell you more in my next blog. In the meantime may I just say how lovely it is to be back.

Now, time for virtual birthday cake – (much fewer calories).

Heart plans, not head plans

A last minute scramble to get ready for a showcase of Future Self Now today meant that I was up til 1.30am last night. The session went well though – attracting a fair few people which I was very pleased about. A lovely lunch in a quirky tea shop with a new friend afterwards rounded off a very satisfactory morning.

2012 for me is about a new resolve to reach new levels of promoting myself and my business. I think the hunger to earn well hasn’t really been there before, but now it is and it felt good to experience myself actively and sincerely promoting FSN today. I’ve still got a lot to learn and I’ll need some help but I’m off to a good start. Yay!

A friend of mine recently said that “nothing can really be achieved without the heart”. I thought this was great. Talking of new resolves for 2012, it’s important that we make sure that what we are creating comes from the heart and not from the head:

  • What do you REALLY want to achieve this year?
  • How will it make you feel at the end of the year to have succeeded in your goals? Be specific. These feelings will be our touchstone and inspiration for the months ahead.
  • Check in – are you making any assumptions about how your year will go? Are these assumptions valid? Perhaps they’re no longer relevant.
  • Do you have a core expectation of hard work? Challenge this. How can work and play feel more like one and the same thing this year?

Let’s make this a heart-centred, smile-inducing, pat-ourselves-on the back kind of year!



6 Habits of Happiness

Thought I’d share this with you from the Greater Good Science Center – a part of the University of California that since 2001 has  been ‘at the fore of a new scientific movement to explore the roots of happy and compassionate individuals, strong social bonds, and altruistic behavior—the science of a meaningful life’.

6 Habits of Happiness

Add to this, this interesting video (also from the Greater Good Science Center) about the ratio of negativity to positivity that really works for us – arguing that negativity is part of the happiness picture. It also challenges us to think beyond the ‘norm’ of happiness – daring to go beyond. Sound familiar?!




A new kind of intentionality

I’ve been thinking a lot recently about what it will take to move to the next level in my business in 2012. I realise I have got used to having a certain number of clients, a certain level of income. All fine but no longer in alignment with my Future Self who deals with hundreds of people at her talks and online.

How to bridge the gap?

  • I think I need to develop a new mindset. A friend of mine recently said to me “Are you hopeful around money or are you hungry?” I thought this was an excellent question. I haven’t had a real hunger up until now because of making the children my main focus and because, frankly, Guy has taken care of that side of things. Business has been good but I’m ready for bigger things. The hunger is here.
  • I need to be intentional and focused – strengthen my sinews. If I make a proper financial plan (for the first time in my life probably!) I’m sure that will help:
    • What is my hunger for? To earn enough to seriously invest in my business and for our family holidays.
    • What kind of yearly income will I need for that?
    • How many clients do I need to reach my monthly target?
    • What other sources of income can I generate?
    • What kind of team do I need around me? (I have just got PR help and that is so helpful. I have a website designer and a photographer. I have two coaches. They all barter with me. It’s a great system!)

Happiness is directly linked to feeling in charge of our own destiny, sensing ourselves grow and learn, and feeling that what we are doing is for a greater purpose. This new intentionality around my business definitely ticks all of these boxes. It may take a little getting used to but I can take baby steps – in the way I talk about my business and my goals and in the choices I make.

Watch this space!